Keep Beating Your Drum – Consistent Witness In An Inconsistent World
November 14, 2019
Full To Overflowing – Happy Thanksgiving – [Printable]
November 28, 2019
Keep Beating Your Drum – Consistent Witness In An Inconsistent World
November 14, 2019
Full To Overflowing – Happy Thanksgiving – [Printable]
November 28, 2019

Thanksgiving is by far one of my favorite holidays. I love the whole idea of setting aside a special day to celebrate our bountiful blessings with family and friends. And of course, you can’t talk about Thanksgiving without mentioning all the yummy foods that go with it. It seems appropriate to kick off the Holiday Food Survival Guide with a post on “How To Approach The Loaded Holiday Table.”

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How To Approach The Loaded Holiday Table

My family has certain dishes that they expect to see on the Thanksgiving table, so the holiday also brings a good bit of nostalgia with it as well. Sometimes biting into that old family recipe will just bring memories flooding to the surface.

There is one essential factor that I want to establish at the very beginning of the series, Holiday Food Survival Guide, and that is, food is a great thing! We love food because it is a sensory experience that puts us in touch with our culture and our past. Food is a vital part of the human experience.

Too many times we want to demonize food and blame it for all our weight problems. However, I want to say this loud and clear, “Food does not make you eat it!” For years I lived with this mentality. I was convinced that I had no control over food; especially during the holidays.

If you want to make it through the next six weeks without gaining weight, then you need to start by taking responsibility for your food choices. You choose the foods you put in your mouth, the food doesn’t choose you.

Now, having said that, I should mention a few things about my food mindset.

  • I enjoy special holiday foods and I would not dream of going through Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year without eating my favorite things.
  • I like sweets. The idea of going cold turkey on dessert is unthinkable to me.
  • This girl cannot live on vegetables and lean meats alone.

Am I saying that my way is the best way…no! The internet offers a vast array of healthy diet plans and nutritional options, which I cannot begin to compete with, nor would I try. If I could be satisfied with eating only the right foods needed to fuel my body, then I would never have gained the kind of experience I have on my weight journey.

Instead, I had to find a way to keep my weight in check and still enjoy the foods that I like. In the end, I found out it’s all about balance. If any of you have read my earlier posts on weight, then you already know that successfully navigating our relationship with food requires that we engage our minds.

Tips To Approach The Loaded Holiday Table

1. Do Not Starve Yourself In Anticipation Of The Big Meal

Many of us are guilty of this. In anticipation of a big meal, we often skimp on meals earlier in the day as a way to “save our calories” for the fun food. However, this typically means that we are starving by the time we hit the holiday spread.

It’s much better to eat normally prior to a special meal. That way your mind will be making the choices when it comes to the richer holiday foods, instead of your screaming stomach.

2. Do Not Pig Out On Appetizers

Remember, the meal is the star of the show, so the appetizers are just previews for the main attraction. If there are nuts available, satisfy yourself with a handful of them.

3. Size Up The Food Before You Put Anything On Your Plate

Remember, the food does not control you. First, size up the food to see what it available. Determine which items are must haves and which items you can pass on. Just because the food is there doesn’t mean you have to eat it.

choose lean proteins from the loaded holiday table

4. Make Servings 1/3 The Size Of What You Think You Want

Our eyes are often much bigger than our stomachs when we first go through the line; not to mention that the variety is often endless when it comes to holiday spreads. If you have already looked the table over, then you already have a good idea of what you want to eat. Plan to serve yourself only 1/3 of the amount you think you want.

Generally, a 1/3 size serving will not be more than 2″ in diameter. The one exception will be the protein; especially if it’s baked turkey. The lean breast of a baked turkey is a delicacy you can afford to eat more of.

5. Put All Gravies And Sauces On The Side

Gravies and rich sauces add a lot of extra fat and calories. Spoon a small pool of gravy beside your food instead of on top. You can still get the taste by dipping the edge of your meat or mashed potatoes into the gravy instead of pouring it all over your food.

6. Wait At Least 10 Minutes After Eating Before Considering Seconds

Do you need more food? If so, narrow done your return trip to 2 food items, then only serve yourself a 1/3 sized serving.

7. Wait At Least An Hour After The Meal To Eat Dessert

Wait at least an hour after the meal to eat dessert. This allows your stomach to register fullness from the main meal. When you do eat dessert, use the same rules as you did with the main meal; except, seconds are not an option when it comes to sweets because they have no nutritional value.

I hope these tips help you to approach the loaded holiday table with confidence and enjoy your time with family and friends. Next, we’ll dive into the second part of our holiday eating survival guide, Controlling Your Weight Over The Holidays.

Find Your Weigh I learned how to make these kinds of choices five years ago when I decided to get off of the weight roller coaster. I spent years yo-yo dieting and my yo-yo inevitably went up every year when the holiday season rolled around. For years I felt helpless and hopeless against the lure of food…so basically, when I was approached with too many yummy choices I gave in to the draw of food every single time.

Maybe you’ve also wondered why you can’t seem to resist the draw of food. It always seems like a situation that’s bigger than your willpower or your resolve. I always blamed my overeating on a lack of willpower, but now I’ve come to realize how much I need God’s strength in the midst of my weakness.

10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

2 Corinthians 12:10

If you’re like me then you have always thought of your weight as personal issue that you had to deal with on your own. But God is just waiting for you to call Him into your story. He longs to speak strength into your weakness.

I’ve written a book to help you learn how to approach God with your weight frustrations by uncovering what you really believe about food. Once you’ve uncovered your faulty thinking, then you can counter that thinking with a renewed mind and new, workable habits you can see yourself following next week, next month and next year!

I’m excited to say the Find Your Weigh book and the companion Find Your Weigh: Walk In Freedom Bible Study (including free video content) will release on January 6, 2020…just in time to help put you on the right track for the New Year. It’s real, it’s practical and it’s grounded in God’s Word…better still, it’s not a diet at all!

So, what do you say? Are you ready to kick-off the next decade with a renewed mind and a new mindset for approaching food? Why don’t you plan to get a few girlfriends together to share the journey?

~ Shellie

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  1. Great insights!
    We have the tradition of clearing the table after the meal and starting a game, and then doing dessert much later. I had never thought of this as a wise practice for eating!

  2. Shellie, these are great tips, especially #3. Whatever the occasion, whenever there are many food items on offer, Sunday brunch or a potluck picnic, see what all is available before you start filling your plate. See what you can happily skip; and if there’s nothing you want to skip, take tiny portions of everything so you’re not eating any more than you normally would. I’ve never understood people who stuff themselves and then feel uncomfortable for hours! At the risk of being “spammy” I’m adding a link to a post I think you might find interesting. #BloggersPitStop

    • Shellie Bowdoin says:

      Your post also has some great points about sugar. I choose to look at it as a treat 🙂

  3. Great advice and I need to implement that all the time..not only during holiday 🙂

  4. I don’t have to eat.. great tweet. 1/3 of what I want– wonderful strategy.

    • Shellie Bowdoin says:

      Hi Beth. Since a lot of our drive for food is in our heads anyway, I find that mind tricks really work. Thanks for stopping by!

  5. This is really good advice. The holidays don’t have to mean big weight gain if we approach the table wisely.

  6. Kathleen says:

    A good holiday season post Shellie, I have loved your input to the Blog Booster Party and I look forward to you being at the Blogger’s Pit Stop rally with more of your posts.

  7. Janice Wald says:

    Hi Shellie,
    Thanks for clicking my link over at Board Boosters and commenting on my article.
    In response to your post: all your tips are great. I also want to add not to go hungry.

  8. Freda says:

    Happy Thanksgiving!