One of the shared experiences of most women over 40 is sending your kids off to college. I have already done it once with my son and now, I again embark on the process with my daughter. This is the second post in the series Parent Checklist For College that I am writing over the next year or so.
As some of you may know, I am a southern American gal who lives with my family in Manila, Philippines. Even
though that is a long way from the US, my husband and I prioritized a trip to the US this summer so that my daughter could tour some colleges before her senior year.
My daughter is the youngest of our two kids, so this is the second time we have visited perspective colleges. College visits are valuable family exercises for several reasons:
I have really enjoyed sharing this experience with my daughter. Because of the circumstances, she and I have done this on our own. In retrospect, I realize now just how special it has been to have this mother/daughter time to take a peek into her future.
There are several different factors to consider when choosing a time frame for college visits. If it is a priority for you to visit when the school is in full swing, then schedule your tours for early Fall of your child’s senior year. Otherwise, our family has found the summer break to be an excellent time to schedule college visits.
Why visit in the summer? Probably the greatest plus for the summer tour is that your child is free from the many responsibilities and time restraints of high school. High school students are extremely busy! It can be difficult to squeeze college visits into their already hectic schedules. Also, for some students, the thought of college is just too overwhelming when they are already burdened with heavy academic demands and other extra-curricular activities.
If you have yet to start this process you may be thinking, “Isn’t it a little early to look at colleges when my child hasn’t even started their senior year?” Actually, you will be surprised at how fast that senior year goes. Also, many colleges have consideration and scholarship deadlines that start as early as November of their senior year.
You can register for a tour slot on most university websites. Keep in mind that this process takes time. It took me about 2 hours to schedule three college tours by the time I searched for the websites and went through the various confirmation processes.
Some schools plan for you to see an admissions officer and others don’t. Our first tour was at a school that included an opportunity to speak with an admissions counselor, so I just assumed that all schools ran their tours the same way. I scheduled an afternoon tour time for our second school only to discover that we would need to visit the admissions office separately. This was significant as we had driven some distance to get to the school and had only allotted that day for our visit. We ended up having to cut our tour short so that we would have enough time to visit the admissions office before it closed.
University campuses are often labyrinths of designated lots and one-way roads. University websites typically have specified parking instructions for visitor parking.
University tour presentations often include the average admission statistics of the previous year’s freshman class. If you already know your child’s scores, you can save yourself the mental math activity of trying to figure out how they stack up for admission or different scholarships as they are mentioned.
This conveys an important message to your child. It conveys that college is a grown-up step and that you are considering their preferences. The more active they are in the process from the beginning, the more serious they will take it. My daughter told me what she would like to ask and the things she would be more comfortable for me to ask
Ultimately, you want the best fit for your child, which may or may not be the university you attended.
I know that my daughter will want to attend church and would like to find one that has a lot of college students. While we were visiting, I asked a friend in the area to take us by a local church so she could get a feel for one of the possibilities.
You want your child to get a feel for the whole area since they will be living there for 4 years.
If you are considering state universities, you may not be limited to just the universities in your particular state. Many universities will offer in-state or reduced tuition to students from neighboring states. So, it pays to research this, especially if you live in a county near the state border.
Summer tours can be particularly hot, not to mention those summer showers. An umbrella can come in handy for both. We learned that the hard way!
Hopefully, these tips will set you on the right foot when scheduling college visits for your child. And regardless of anything else, remember that college tours are special bonding opportunities that you will remember for years to come.
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Very informative! I still have my youngest to experience this with and, as you stated, it can be an opportunity to see your child as the young adult that they are:)
Very special times…
Hi Shellie, Very resourceful list! Pinned! My oldest daughter is already off to college. She followed a few or her closest friends. My 12 year old, is thinking about the colleges where she wants to go. When it comes time to check out colleges with her, I’ll be checking out your list! Thank you for sharing! It’s a pleasure co-hosting #OMHGWW with you! Have a beautiful day!
Thanks Christine, it’ll be time before you know it!
Hi Shellie, I had no idea there were so many things to think about when sensing a child off to college. Your tips and ideas can be very helpful!!
Thanks for Co-Hosting with us again this month!!
Hope you have a great day!!
Wow, there is a lot to think about and it seems so much more complicated than when I did it!
Hi Shellie! Thank you for being a co-host at #OMHGWW! That’s so nice you get that time with your daughter. My daughter’s going into her second year at college and unfortunately I wasn’t able to be a part of that, cherish every second you can and enjoy the rest of the summer with your children!
I am savoring every minute of it! I have really enjoyed co-hosting with everyone and getting to know you better!
Too late. We just graduated our youngest.
Joyce, I am sure you have it down by now ;)…thanks for stopping by!
Great list! I get so excited each week to see what you have been working on because it’s always AMAZING! Thank you for sharing this with us. Pinned and tweeted. I hope to see you on Monday at 7 pm, so we can party!!!! Lou Lou Girls
Thanks, I always enjoy your party!
I worked at a college for the past 18 years and was often involved with college visits. this is really important information. Families need to visit colleges before deciding where to attend, you find out things that you can’t learn on line.
Thanks Michele, I think it is important on multiple levels for the child and the parent!
Great checklist! Thank you so much for sharing it with Thursday Favorite Things!
Shellie, this is an excellent post and so valuable for so many families I know! Like someone wrote, my girls are already out of college but this information is so important! Thank you for sharing on #TheLeisureLink!
Thanks Terri, hopefully it can help some mama along the way…thanks for hosting!
What a great post! I have two kids in college right now, and I could have used your series a few years ago!
I think you should send this to high schools and colleges for them to use! This is wonderful material.
I added your pin to this link: https://www.pinterest.com/melredd/blog-link-parties-and-blog-link-ups/
Came over on #WonderfulWednesday, and I’m glad to find your site~
Thanks Melanie, I appreciate the encouragement!
Thanks Thanks Thanks! I will be coming back to this page. I am about to send one off to kindergarten and one to uni.
Haha, you have them coming and going! I am glad this hits you at a time you can use it.
I did this and I know some colleges in the Bay Area host college tours for students and families-like college days. A couple of private universities did it and if you went besides feeding you, they waived the application fee which will save you a bundle.
Yes, college days are great if you can go on a specific date.
Shellie, I am taking my last kiddo next month to the college of her choice. I also posted on this topic yesterday. I hope you will check it out! http://quitesimply-sgjeffries.blogspot.com/2015/07/collegebound-list-of-things-your-child.html
Will do! There is a lot to it, isn’t there?
Great information for families with kids going off to college. We’ve already done this years ago, but what a great checklist for those who have not.
Thanks Kim, no need to create the wheel twice if someone else’s experience can make it easier! I always enjoy you stopping by.